Happy Sunday World! My encounter with the health professionals is still rattling around my head but really positive things are about to come out of my pretty negative experiences – watch this space.
I think I may have mentioned that I am currently listening to the ‘Let Them Theory’ by Mel Robbins. Mel is a very American (in a good way) lass in her mid fifties and would probably shout at me for being a ‘Nobody’. She is definitely from the American motivational speaker mould but she has good messages to share. Although I don’t agree with all of her views and theories, she brings me reminders of common sense stuff and she doesn’t mince her words. Anyhoo, why am I rambling on about this American Podcaster/ Author?
Yesterday as I listened and tidied the kitchen, she reminded me that I should live my life according to my values. This sounds simple but in order to do this you also have to employ her latest theory ‘Let Them’. If you want to find out more about the ‘Let Them Theory’ then I will let you discover her book yourself, she is much better at explaining it than me (it is all over the supermarkets etc).
“Kay you are drifting off message again”
Yes, where was I, ah yes living life according to your values. So, after listening to Mel and then thinking about her words of wisdom, I decided to revisit my life values this morning, as I scribbled in my non public journal. Creating a list of your true values isn’t easy, it requires a lot of honesty with yourself and asking your self lots of follow on questions. Here is an example:
Kay’s Value
Being well enough to help others
[Kay’s inner voice] What does that actually mean Kay?
On a top level – it means finding ways to be more healthy so that I am fit to help others. You know, like putting my own oxygen mask in place first so that I can be more effective in helping my friends, family and communities.
But what is ‘well enough’?
I suppose it means being physically and emotionally fit enough to function in life without it having to be my main thought every-time I want to do something.
I want more detail Kay?
OK – I want to be resilient. I want to have the inner strength to overcome obstacles.
How are you going to achieve this – but I suppose that will be in the plan so I will let you off with this headline statement……for now.
What about this helping others thing? This all sounds pretty self focused at the moment?
I love to help others. It is key to some of my other values, however, I need to be strong enough to know when to help and when to back off. I also need to know and trust that my own good/bad health doesn’t interfere. The health thing needs to be almost ticking along subconsciously – you know like a trampolinist. The elite performer bounces subconsciously and can then leave all their conscious thought to the complex twists and turns they put into their routine. My health needs to be like that subconscious bounce.
Right, you have some work to do but you now have the start of a plan….and the rules you are going to work within.
It looks like my values are pretty important to my life plan, it is therefore, important to be very clear about them so that when I am challenged, either by myself or by others, I know where the line in the sand is. We are all challenged by others, for many reasons, but if you are drifting through with no real plan or rules or values, then others will steer your course for you. You know, like a doctor telling me that my life is pretty much sitting in a chair staring at the TV (See rant from 22/02/25). If I didn’t have my values, I would probably just have agreed with him and took myself off to the appointed chair to fester for the next 20 years.
Think on…..do you really live according to YOUR values? Do you really know what they are? No, I mean REALLY know what they are?
Happy reflecting and it really isn’t kooky, motivational crap (I know that is what you were thinking, wasn’t it?). Living according to your values gives you the purpose and curiosity to have fun. And it also gives you the power to say ‘NO’, with strength and clarity.